Your Little Kicks and Punches

Dear didimeimei,

Today you turn 20 weeks. You are now a half baked bun! Less than an hour ago, I felt you moving so I placed my hand on my belly. For the very first time, I could feel your kick with my hand. Your big brother was the first person (apart from mummy) to feel your little kick/punch and got really excited. Daddy came to know that we could feel you and he quickly came to the room to introduce himself to you. Do you feel the love already?

In less than 12 hours, we will know your gender for sure. Apart from everyone at home, mummy’s best friends are also eager to know your gender. Honestly though, it doesn’t matter if you are a girl or a boy. We all just want you to be healthy.

See you soon little one!

Life is great because…

I have the sweetest little boy.

While the bump continues to grow and is now more visible, you have started to be more cautious not to be too rough around me. Daddy will remind you from time to time to take care of mummy and be more careful not to hurt mummy because your little sibling is growing in mummy’s belly.

Today while we went to the mall to get your hair cut, you had abrasions from the pair of shoes you were wearing. You refused to let me carry you because I am pregnant. You insisted that your foot was not hurting but I could see you limping to our destination. I had to call daddy to come carry you so you would feel better.

You will be turning 4 in less than two weeks, but you are already alot wiser and kinder. You have no idea how proud I am of you.

Having a moment with your sibling

This is you talking to your sibling. Something you do every morning and night. You would tell him/her what you are going to do and how you will teach him/her to do that next time too. We know for sure you are going to be a superb big brother.

Detailed scan in 3 weeks to find out the gender of your sibling!

“What will you do with the Money?”

We finally got down to opening all your red packets you got from Chinese New Year after a month and you are significantly richer.

When we asked what will you do with the money that you have, without hesitation, your answer was…

  1. Buy food for mummy
  2. Buy food for daddy
  3. Buy something small for myself. Maybe a Thomas toy.

That is you, putting others before yourself. You are growing into such a fine little gentleman. ❤

The Rag-and-Bone Man

As we were heading to the car the other day, we ran into the rag-and-bone man just outside the carpark. As usual, just like how you’d say hi to the construction workers and any random passer by, you greeted the rag-and-bone man happily. In return, he said “hello boy” to you too.

Then you said a word which would have been extremely hurtful if he had heard it. Smelly. You said “smelly”. I immediately stopped you and you got a serious scolding in the car by your daddy and me for making such a remark.

Well son, you may be young and most people will forgive you simply because they will think you are just a kid. But why mummy and daddy were so angry that day was because of the fact that you were extremely rude and mean despite the fact that I believe it was never your intention.

Quite honestly though, I have no idea if you were referring to the rag-and-bone man, or the unwanted items in his lorry that was smelly. Everything just happened so quickly. But since there was really no smell from that vehicle and man, I thought it was a stereotype that the rag-and-bone man / his collections was/were smelly. I kept asking you who told you that they smell but you refused to answer.

When you grow up, I hope you learn the following :

1. The tongue is the sharpest weapon. Words may just be words, but they can really affect people. You will be amazed by how powerful words really are

2. Putting yourself in others’ shoes. How would you feel if someone told you, or someone you love that they are smelly?

It may be over now but I truly hope you learn and never forget this lesson.

Gramps Lim

If there is anyone in the world you should be eternally grateful for (besides your parents), it has got to be these 2 beautiful people.

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Grandpa and grandma Lim are your caregivers while dad and I are at work. Rain or shine, they’d pick you up from playgroup and bring you home for dinner. Although a couple of hours at their place everyday may not sound like much, but just think about the amount of effort taken to pick you up, cook for you, shower you, just to make sure that you do not go hungry. If only you are not picky about food and can eat more in school. There is no doubt how much they love you.

They loved you even before you were born. When we went to shop for your cot in preparation for your arrival, gramps Lim insisted on buying your little crib. In their words, “阿公阿嬷买给 baby 的”.

You were born a month early. Daddy and I didn’t have time to buy your daily necessities like diapers and shower stuffs. The moment they heard you were arriving, they bought everything for us just so we don’t have to worry about it.

When you were a few months old, you came down with stomach flu and ended up being hospitalised. Daddy and I stayed over with you just to make sure you knew we were by your side. When we got home after you were discharged, we came home to find the whole house cleaned, sheets changed, toys sanitized. That’s grandma Lim for you. She came by to clean so you wouldn’t fall sick again.

After you started school, someone passed the hfmd to you. There were so many blisters on your arms, legs and insides of your mouth and daddy and I decided to bring you over to gramps place the next morning before going to work. Without hesitation, they suggested that you stayed over at their place until you recovered and we can visit you everyday after work. They said this way, we will not disturb your sleep by carrying you out of bed in the morning to bring you to their place. At the same time, we can get enough rest for work as well. Looking after a kid is not an easy task. Looking after a sick kid who is not sleeping and feeding well is tough on a whole new level. They did not have to shoulder that responsibility, but they did.

When you were about to start potty training, your teacher wrote it in your communication book where parents and teachers update each other about the child’s performance in school. By the time I read her note stating that you were going to be off diapers the next day, and that we have to pack underwear for you, it was already late evening. While I was thinking if I should just inform the teachers the next day about delaying the potty training, grandma Lim showed up at our doorstep with 2 boxes of underwear. It was close to 9pm. It was totally unexpected and heartwarming.

I wish I could list down every single thing they have done for us, but I’m sure you will see it for yourself as you grow up.

I hope that you will learn to be grateful for every little thing that people do for you and love them back. Remember, learn to be grateful my little darling.